Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Why I'm here

*Trigger alert* This blog is about sexual assault and the aftermath. It does contain some graphic content.


It contains the truth.


My truth.
This post will always be on top so scroll down to read the actual posts.

20 comments:

Lil Brat said...

These are really good questions and I have no answers for you. I am here as your friend though and always willing to listen to you.

dangergirl said...

Thanks for your support.I know you're my friend !!

Lil Bit said...

Hey girl! -- I'm here, too, and thanks for the direct link so I could find ya here. Where'd your profile link go? =(

Lil Bit said...

After going back thru all of your posts & catching up from the beginning, I think this place is going to be a WONDERFUL outlet for you, hon! -- Not only that, it's a safe refuge for any other woman or girl to come and heal, too.

You're going to be a BIG help to somebody out there by starting this blog, I just know it. Probably more than one.

Keep on keeping on, hon... I'm here.

dangergirl said...

Thanks lb. I'll send an email regarding the profile thing. I need some help with that !!!

I appreciate your kind words and support. Yeah, I agree that this is a pretty good outlet for me. Hopefully it will save me some $$ on therapy. LOL

dg

accessoriesgirl said...

i can't explain it all but i can explain some....

i was raped at 14...and damaged..and scarred ...but i survived...i beat him...and i own what he did to me...it no longer owns me...i am now 46

i am willing to talk and listen...

you will have pain and anger and frustration and lots of questions and few answers...but i assure you

he cannot own you unless you allow it...he only took what wasn't his to begin with

Another Suburban Mom said...

I just read all your posts. I have no words to send, just admiration for being brave enough to tell everyone what happened to you.

I will be watching as you transform from victim to survivor.

dangergirl said...

accessoriesgirl - you're right. I hadn't considered that he took what wasn't his to begin with. What an asshole !!!

I'm not going to allow him to own any part of me - just wish the reclaiming process wasn't so damn slow or painful.

another suburban mom - thank you for your kind words. I'm not feeling brave but rather desperate to work through it. Your comment regarding my transformation to survivor was motivating and comforting. Yeah, I'm not going to be stuck in victim mode.

Thanks both of you.

dg

accessoriesgirl said...

i will tell you that the process is as long as it takes...every woman is different...and every healing is different...but it is healing just the same

i was just telling Sage yesterday..that I hadn't thought about the story in quite sometime...and that is exactly what it is...only a story now...

use whatever tools necessary to have progression in healing but whatever you do...don't stop moving forward...tiny itty bitty movement is good...certainly better than no movement at all.

you will be whole again...i promise

Lapis Ruber said...

Unless brave women like you tell it how it is, cowardly bastards like him will keep on doing it. Don't let what he did ruin your life. As soon as he is locked up or punished for his crime, lock the memory away - otherwise he will take comfort from the fact that you cannot forget him.

Easy for me to say, I know, but it's the best advice I can give.

dangergirl said...

accessoriesgirl (cool nick,btw) - I'm hanging onto the hope of wholeness everyday. I can see it getting better...yeah, those freakin' itty, bitty steps. I'm ready for a sprint to the finish line. LOL

Lapis Ruber - thanks for your support. I hadn't considered myself brave - just desperate to reclaim what he took. Yep, he won't ruin my life as long as I tell my truth. God, he is such a mother-fucker.

Mmmm, thinking I may be moving into the anger phase of my recovery. LOL

the princess said...

you will make it back to yourself. you will overcome this. i will be reading and thinking of you and how very brave you are.

dangergirl said...

Thanks princess, appreciate your support.

dg

rockyroads said...

I was raped from my ex-boyfriend when i was 23 ( ia now 35). He came back on this date to take his stuff out of our appartment. As soon as he entered the door he hit my in myface and broke my nose and I lost 2 teeth. The only way to stop him from killing me with the knife you brought with was doing whatever he wanted. So he did not get rape, he just got chaged with sexual assault. ( Oh and he threw my cat out of the window in the 5th floor). I needed a long time to get my life and my sexuality back. It will come back, i promise you!

dangergirl said...

rockyroads - I am so sorry that happened to you. I am appreciative of your support and am in awe of your strength/courage that it took to reclaim your life. Thanks for sharing that with me.

dg

Lil Bit said...

Just poppin' by to let ya know I'm thinking of you. =)

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